I just finished the Bible study Feminine Appeal. In my opinion, it is a must read for any wife/mother that would like to strengthen her walk with the Lord. I wanted to mention one section specifically though. This is a touchy subject in most churches and many marriages and I wanted to give kudos to the author, Carolyn Mahaney, for putting it all out on the table and really giving a wonderful explanation of what God meant when He said the verses in 1 Peter 3:1-6. We've all heard it before.....wives SUBMIT to your husbands, and thought WHAT????
1 Likewise, wives, be subject to you own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives-
2when they see your respectful and pure conduct.
3Do not let your adorning be external-the braiding of hair, the wearing of gold, or the putting on of clothing-
4but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God's sight is very precious.
5For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their husbands,
6as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him Lord. And you are her children, if you do good and do not fear anything that is frightening. NIV
Carolyn first discusses verse 1, she says, "It is crucial that we pause and consider these two points of clarification-First of all, note to whom this command is addressed: to wives. Submission was not our husband's idea, and neither are they responsible to enforce it. This command is not divine permission for husbands to assert authoritarian leadership. Nowhere in Scripture does it say, "Husbands see to it that your wives submit.""
She goes on to say, "The requirement to submit to our husbands comes straight from God, to us as wives. And we are answerable to Him for our obedience. We cannot blame our husbands for our lack of submission. The responsibility is entirely ours!"
"Secondly, we ascertain to whom we are to submit. As married women, we are not to submit to all men, but rather to our husbands. Conversely, we should not seek leadership from other men. apart from our husbands, no matter how worthy they are of honor or respect. We are to be subject to our own husbands."
She also focuses on those two little words that create such anxiety in the church, "be subject". To most people who read these words a brainless robot with little to no value or status pops into mind. But as Carolyn explains, being subject, is an honorable role that calls forth the full measure of our energy, ability, and godly character. For as we see in Genesis 2:20, woman was called to be man's helpmate, NOT his helpless mate.
She also mentions that we as wives have been graced by God with such unique gifts that are intended to be used to support our husbands and that we are to contribute our ideas and suggestions, offer wisdom and insight, PRAY and encourage, as well as correct. "When we carry out these acts of service in all humility, we help our husbands to lead and fulfill our biblical duty to submit."
So, in a day in age where only 50% of marriages succeed why don't we all try to go back to Gods design for marriage and let Him be glorified!